The post: "A friend of mine needs your help. She has decided she wants a doula, but can't find the right fit. In her words she wants someone "gray and crunchy". I think she's fallen in love with Ina May and wants someone with a lot of experience and very natural in their approach. Any suggestions? TIA!"
The response: "My doula wasn't grey, but definitely au natural. I had her for my no-intervention ABC birth and she rocked. Not Ina May, but a younger, hip version. Look up "Soft Touch Doula" online for contact info. Her name is Jess Fuss."
Dear Jessica,
I wanted to write and thank you for the amazing gift that you gave to our family as our Doula. You were present for labor and birth, and you provided suggestions and hands on help that got me through an
almost 24 hour unmedicated labor. But even more than that, you were present in our lives during my pregnancy, when you provided emotional
support, offered practical information and gave us the feeling of well- being we needed to prepare for and visualize the birth of our son.
My VBAC was the most powerful, fulfilling, thrilling and tender moment of
my life. I will never forget the warmth and care that allowed me to
follow the process of birth down the path that was right for my body
and for my family.
Thank you for supporting our decisions and for reminding us of our goals. Thank you for guiding me through my birthing experience as a fellow woman who has experienced it for
herself, and for reminding me of the strength of the women who have come before us and who have done the same.
You sent me a card after we first met that said "Trust Birth" on the front. I did hang it up
where I could see it every day - and I did trust birth. You instilled feelings of reassurance, empowerment and respect for the birth process and for our right to make choices and have those choices respected.
You have touched our lives deeply, and I will be forever grateful that we chose you to be our Doula. Thank you Jessica.
Sincerely and with Love,
Sheri, Sean, Emma and Finnegan
Why do you need a doula? Simply becuase giving birth requires a lot of support! It is a process that requires someone beyond your spouse/partner. You need a support person for your support person! During our 40 hour birth, I needed all the care and attention I could get.
Why do you want Jess? Because she is the right woman, with the right sense of respect, kindness and expertise to get you through your birth.
-Kerri
Even though I had an epidural after a very short period of contractions, I'm so thankful to have had Jessica there. A lot of people think that the nurses will be there for you, but most times they are just there for medical help. A doula like Jessica is essential for anyone who wants to have a calm and happy birth experience. I'm not a mushy person, and was a little wary about a doula being a little too "new age" for me, but Jessica is just the sweetest, down to earth, always willing to help person and I'm so glad she was there for Zoey's birth.
-Anna B.
My Daughter Jillian gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby. As soon as Jillian and her husband Joe found out that they were expecting a baby, they began to plan for his/her birth. They attended Bradley birthing classes and researched and read everything they could find to plan the type of natural birth experience that they would like to have. I was thrilled when my daughter asked me to be an assistant coach. After a few months, Jillian told me that she also wanted to have a Doula attend the birth. I had never heard of a Doula, and I didn't quite understand the role of a Doula. I trusted Jillian's judgement. She is very intelligent and always researches and puts lots of thought into her decision making.
Jillians water broke before she went into labor. It was a very long day of waiting before she began to have contractions. By evening, Jillian was experiencing stronger contractions. Joe called Jessica in the evening. Jessica spent all night with us. Jillian's plan was to labor at home for as long as possible, and then deliver at the ABC at Women and Infants.
As we went through this long evening of labor, I began to understand how wonderful it is to have a Doula present. Jillian labored with grace and beauty. She listened to her body, and responded naturally with each new phase. It was amazing! You could feel the transfer of strength she received from her loving husband. She instinctively took strength from each of us, Joe, myself and Jessica. She seemed to know exactly what she needed from each of us. Jessica took the anxiety of the unknown out of the experience. She was very familiar with the protocols of the hospital. She would softly explain what could happen next, and the different options Jillian would have to deal with each new situation. I know that Jessica was a comforting presence for Jillian and Joe, but she was also a wonderful comforting presence for me.
Jessica added this layer of warm, comforting reassurance that I can imagine a baby must feel when he is swaddled.
I understand now the meaning of a Doula. I am so thankful to have been part of the beautiful birth of my grandson, and also very thankful to have shared it with Jessica.
-From the Mother of a woman I supported through childbirth
I still remember it was around 11pm that I called Jessica in November 2006. I told her that I think I might be in labor, I’ll go to the hospital first, and if I found out anything I’ll call her. Jessica lives 45 minutes away, and she came to the hospital to be by my side right away without me calling. I didn’t have a short labor. My labor was 28 hours long. Jessica stayed by my side encouraging me, and telling me what a great job I was doing.
If it wasn’t for her, I think my labor would feel like forever. I’m glad that I had a Doula for my delivery, and I’m very glad that the Doula was Jessica.
Sincerely,
Diane Wong
Having a Doula is a Wonderful Thing!
When my wife approached me and said that she wanted to have a Doula, the first thing that popped into my head was: What is a Doula and how much is it going to cost?
Fortunately for me and my wife we soon found out that having Jessica as our Doula was one of the best decisions that we made during my wife’s pregnancy and subsequent delivery.
When I first met Jessica I instantly could tell that she was a kind and loving individual who is sincerely committed to her profession. Jessica’s support of my wife during the months leading up to and during the delivery was outstanding. She definitely went well above the call of duty to ensure that our delivery experience was one of the best. Jessica helped us stick with our birth plan and provided extra care for my wife during those difficult times of hard labor. In all honesty I don’t know how we could have managed without her. I would highly recommend her services to all expecting parents, especially first timers. Her level of knowledge, care and love will make the birthing experience great for everyone involved. Jessica’s loving nature greatly reduced all the anxieties that come along with having a baby. Having Jessica as our Doula was a wonderful experience and I am thankful that we had her services during our daughter’s birth.
Sincerely,
Tom Hernandez
Working with Jess was an amazing experience. My wife and I had a long labor; Jess was there every step of the way with support. As a husband going through the birth process, I could not imagine doing it without Jess's help. She was phenomenal.
-Derek Michael
I had planned for a natural birth for our daughter, Zoe. This being our first child, I had no idea how difficult it would be. Having Jessica as our doula was like having a walking, talking reference guide for the whole pregnancy, birth and after care. I couldn’t have had this baby naturally without her encouragement to both myself and my husband. Jessica went beyond the call of duty and exceeded our expectations of what was required in a doula. She was caring, kind and obviously well educated in all areas of the child birth process.
-Deborah Hernandez
